When you, as a
man are treating your lady, let your gentleness come to play: You will never go
wrong (with her), even if you do the wrong thing politely in the public.
According to, 26 Ways a Christian Man Should Treat a
Woman by Richard Hardy, the following tips should be
observed whenever you are with your lady:
A.When
walking on the street: Walk on the street side (together).
B. When to offer your arm: Men
rarely offer their arm to a female in the daytime unless she is elderly. At
night, however, if she is wearing heels or is going down stairs or a slope, it
is advisable to offer your arm. Hopefully she will be smart enough to take it
rather than risk stumbling.
C. How not to offer your arm: Don’t
grab a girl by the arm or the elbow and shove her along.
D. Leading through a crowd: It is
OK to take a girl’s hand and precede her through a crowd to make a way for her.
E. Guy or girl first: In
most circumstances, indoors or out, when a couple walks together, the girl
precedes the guy. However, if traveling outside and over rough ground, he goes
first and offers his hand if she needs assistance.
F. Car doors: The
guy steps ahead of the girl to open a car door for her when she enters. He gets
out first and holds the door for her when they arrive at their destination,
unless she does not want to wait. He stands behind the car door when opening
the door so as not to gawk at her legs as they swing out. In addition, he
should keep his eyes up so that she knows she is able to get out of the car
without you looking down her shirt or up her dress.
G. Stairs up and down: The
guy precedes the girl when going down the stairs or slope and follows her when
going up the stairs or slope.
H. Going through doors: A guy
should always stand aside and allow a girl to pass through an open door ahead
of him. When approaching a closed, heavy door, however, it is far more
practical if you push the door open, go through and hold the door while the
girl follows. If the door opens toward them, he pulls it open and allows her to
go through first.
H. Revolving doors: A girl
steps through a revolving door first if the door is already moving. If the
revolving door is not moving, the guy goes first, getting the door started and
allowing the girl to follow. By the way, this is not the time for the
power-rush through the doors like you did as a 10-year-old. Moving doors
slamming on a girl’s heels do not make for a happy girl.
I. Seating in public: A guy
should offer his seat to a girl. As an extra tip, a younger man should always
offer his seat to an elderly man or woman as well.
J. Elevator etiquette: A guy
lets a girl off an elevator first unless he is near the door and the elevator
is crowded. In that case, he gets off first and holds the door for the others.
K. Umbrellas: A guy
should hold the umbrella when walking together with a girl in the rain. The
exception would be if the girl is considerably shorter than the guy. In this
case, be smart and find two umbrellas.
L. Displaying public affection: Do not do it! Keep your lips, your hands, your body and your
hormones out of public scrutiny. Then, as a young man of God, remember those
lips, hands, body and hormones are under God’s scrutiny in your privacy too.
M. What not to touch: Never touch a girl on the breast, behind or between the legs.
Never touch any other place on her body that arouses her sexually or moves her
in that direction. That is why God made the marriage bed.
Source: Google.
N. Seating a girl: A guy
should approach the chair at a table where he would the girl to sit and pull
the chair out for her, leaving her adequate room to move to the table. Then he
should merely slide the chair to her as she helps herself to her seat. This is
not the time to do a back-of-the-knee slam, again like the 10-year-old that you
used to be. Taking her down fast will not score points. Be gentle.
O. Listening: A guy
should remember that girls think like girls and not like guys. Guys tend to be
more logical in their thought patterns. Girls tend to be more feeling-oriented.
Neither approach is right or wrong. They are just different. So do not expect
her to display male logic. It can happen, but in general, it is not going to
happen!
P. When a girl says, “Nothing is wrong”: Something’s wrong, and it is your job to find
out what it is.
Q. Dating matters:
Make plans
for the date far enough that both people can clear the day on their
schedules. It is a compliment to the girl for the guy to think enough of
her to provide her the opportunity to arrange for her availability.
Be on
time.
Do not
cancel the date without a very good reason.
Confirm
all arrangements by telephone on the morning of the date.
Dress
with care. If you are not sure whether you are over- or underdressing, ask
the girl what she is wearing.
Consider
the other person when making plans for a date. More than one guy has
wondered why his date is bored out of her mind sitting through a four-hour
hockey game about which she did not give a rip.
Do not
forget your manners of eating and otherwise.
Do not
forget to say please, and thank you. Sometimes, writing thank-you note is
in order as well.
9.Humour: Know your strengths and limitations here.
10.Compliments: A guy should seek to sincerely say good
things about a girl. Most people like to hear good things about themselves and
others.
11.Forget what
TV and movies tell you about being a guy: the girls are not impressed with your
ability to demonstrate your levels of testosterone.
We believe
that, beyond all these, you will ask God for wisdom to handle (not only your
relationship), but every aspect of your life.
“Wisdom (is) the principal thing; (Therefore) get
wisdom; Yea, with all thy getting get understanding. Exalt her, and she will
promote thee; She will bring thee to honor, when thou dost embrace her. She
will give to thy head a chaplet of grace; A crown of beauty will she deliver to
thee. Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; And the years of thy life shall
be many”, Prov
4:7-10, ASV.
