Relationship can
be very interesting: at the same time, it can be very daunting as a result of
all that relationship involves.
There are so
many people (men and women) who have refused to take a quantum leap into
marriage – all because of what they had learnt, heard, and/or see in
relationships. However, a great number of people find themselves in
relationship, day after day, that is – people get into relationships when some
people are running away from it.
While there is no manual for success
There is no
proven method on how to make a relationship work, but there are principles on
how to make relationships work. These principles are found in the scripture
(not systematically, but apiece).
a.From everything about marriage in the scripture,
a person must know God (be born again) before delving into relationship or
marriage – Gen 3:8.
b.A person should be filled with the Holy Spirit
for the ability to walk with God – John 14:16.
c.A person must seek to know God’s mind every time
(for the purpose of having cognate direction in all endeavours) – Joshua 1:8.
d.A person should seek to please God, every day,
either while in the relationship or in the marriage - Rom 12:1-3.
Things that happen because of a third party
“Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, And not for
strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of
your youth”, Prov 5:16-18, NKJV.
Source: Google.
When you begin
to take the issues in your relationship to a third party, you are inviting some
errors into your union, but this is not to say that you cannot have a mentor or
counsellor for your relationship.
So many people
are qualified to be called ‘foolish’ all
because they bring disaster upon themselves for lack of knowledge; they do not
know God. God is the only one that gives wisdom: “If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God
[Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or
fault finding, and it will be given him”, James 1:5, AMP.
When one, foolishly,
takes his or her relationship’s matters to a third party:
1.The third party will advise him or her based on
his or her experiences.
2.The third party is more than likely to shift the
interest of the person having issues in relationship, away, from the
relationship – due to human errors.
3.The third party might suggest several reasons
why your partner is not the best person for you.
4.Sometimes, the third party might snatch you away
from your partner, or give you an alternative (partner).
What to do when you have issues in your
relationship?
Since we are not
talking about the stages involved in establishing a relationship, in this
article, we believe that we are talking to people that have godly, established,
relationships.
Therefore, when
you have issues in your relationship – you could do the following:
a.Pray to God to calm the storm in your
relationship.
b.Listen to God’s directions.
c.Always employ discussions (with your partner)
when you have disagreement.
d.Never part with your partner without settling
your misunderstanding, if you do, your misunderstanding might degenerate to
something too cumbersome for you to handle.
e.You should always consider your partner’s
feelings in your actions – bearing in mind that ‘if you are the receiver of
such actions how would you feel’?
