OLEM EDGE GLOBAL CONCEPT: Who comes first between your fiancée and your sibling?

There has never been a fiancée or fiancé who never had a hiccup with, at least, one person among his or her partner’s family members.

Many times, the hiccups dwell on: who owns the man (more) between the family member (who is mostly a sibling to the man), and the fiancée; who should get the man’s attentions and cares the most; and who can suggest to the man (and the man will yield without thinking twice) the most. These, basically, are what generate rifts between fiancées and their fiancé’s sibling(s).

Siblings that engage in rifts with their brother’s fiancée on the noted reasons (above) and more in like manner do not know the scripture

“He replied, Have you never read that He Who made them from the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be united firmly (joined inseparably) to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?”, Matt 19:4-5, AMP.

Based on the scripture above, what is the relationship between a sibling and his or her brother, compared to the relationship between the brother and the fiancée? The siblings, parents, fiancés and fiancées alike, should know that the purpose of a person would be fulfilled without the presence of family members, but not without the presence of that person’s partner.

There is a limit to what siblings could do in a person’s life compared to one’s partner

Since the Bible does not (vividly) recognise the place or position of a sibling in marriage contracts, there is no basis for their claims on the man when it comes to relationship/marriage. However, siblings are also like a shareholder in the life of their brother or sister that is in a relationship with another person. Their relevancy cannot be overemphasised, but there is a limit for them.

Any sibling that does not want to be tagged ‘a practitioner of incest’ (if is a she) or homosexual-practitioner (as a he) must know that there should be some gap in-between him or herself and the brother.

An article, Incest, on Wikipedia, has this to say, “The incest taboo is and has been one of the most widespread of all cultural taboos, both in present and in many past societies. Most modern societies have laws regarding incest or social restrictions on closely consanguineous marriages. In societies where it is illegal, consensual adult incest is seen by some as a victimless crime.

“Some cultures extend the incest taboo to relatives with no consanguinity such as milk-siblings, step-siblings, and adoptive siblings. Third-degree relatives (such as half-aunt, half-nephew, and first cousin) on average share 12.5% genes and sexual relations between them are viewed differently in various cultures, from being discouraged to being socially acceptable. The children of incestuous relationships were regarded as illegitimate, and are still so regarded in some societies today. In most cases, the parents did not have the option to marry to remove that status, as incestuous marriages were and are normally also prohibited”.

What finally make one’s fiancée to come before one’s sibling(s)?

It is true that family’s cords are not easily broken and that the siblings know their brother of sister before any fiancé or fiancée. Yet, there is absolute condemnation on a sibling that might want to lay more claims on his or her brother than the brother’s fiancée.

Furthermore, somethings would not just shift their grounds for any sibling(s) to come first, before their brother’s fiancée. They include:

2. Confidentiality: there is nowhere, under heaven, where a sibling knows all secretes of his or her brother than that brother’s fiancée.

3. Togetherness: the joy, the feelings, the trust, and all that binds together, which the lovers share cannot be compared with what exist between siblings.

4. Personal prayers: siblings could pray together, but there are restrictions to what they could pray (together) upon. However, lovers could pray about their future family (the kind of family they need); the children they would give birth to; their plans, aspirations, and expectations, and so on.

5. Sharing: of truth, siblings can (sometimes) share things together than any fiancé or fiancée would do; they have been doing this since they were born. Notwithstanding, there is a different feeling when lovers share their joy or their pains together.

The only type of fiancé or fiancée that would fulfil your joy

“Many a man proclaims his own loving-kindness and goodness, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man walks in his integrity; blessed (happy, fortunate, enviable) are his children after him”, Prov 20:6-7, AMP.

Any fiancé or fiancée that one dates outside Christ will crush the purpose of one’s existence. In other words, one cannot afford to date a person that is not born again, because it is the experience (of salvation) that will rejuvenate the man’s or woman’s mind and make him or her to be fit for a godly and fulfilling relationship.

If you are not born again how can you receive a partner that will fulfil your destiny?

Often than none, it is a mirage, when a non-believer of Christ is expecting a born again person to marry him or her. Therefore, you need to also give yourself to Christ for a perfect match. “John answered, A man can receive nothing [he can claim nothing, he can take unto himself nothing] except as it has been granted to him from heaven. [A man must be content to receive the gift which is given him from heaven; there is no other source]”. John 3:27, AMP.

We will love you to affirm the prayers below and allow Jesus Christ to come into your life today. Kindly say this prayer and do the biddings at the end of it: Your life will definitely not remain the same again.

Prayer: I thank you Father because your salvation, through grace, has reached me today. Please, draw me closer in understanding to yourself on daily basis and make me to grow in the Holy Ghost. Also help me to proclaim your salvation unto all that comes in contact with me, every day of my life, and help me not to become a cast away at the end. In Jesus name I prayed, amen.