God declared at the
creation, when Adam was the only human created before Eve, that ‘it is not good that the man should be alone’.
Gen 2:18, a.
Marriage, the union of one
man and one woman, is a personal, but not private, relationship with great
public significance. Marriage is good for the couple; it provides the optimal
conditions for bearing and raising children. Marriage makes an essential contribution
to the common good.
God, purposely, designed
marriage (according to Genesis 1:27-28) for the following:
“So God created man in His
own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
Then God blessed them, and God said to them,"Be fruitful and multiply;
fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the
birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth." NKJV.
The purpose of fruitfulness and multiplication of
mankind would have been defeated – had God not made Adam and Eve: hence, the
scripture declares (about God), 'He has made
everything beautiful in its time. He also has planted eternity in men's hearts
and minds [a divinely implanted sense of a purpose working through the ages
which nothing under the sun but God alone can satisfy], yet so that men cannot
find out what God has done from the beginning to the end’. Eccl 3:11, AMP.
Another reason why marriage is important is to meet
the need for ‘worshipping God’. Since every man will die, it will be a defeat
of God’s plan if parents do not procreate. However, procreation should be
through wedlock to the people of the house hold of faith, because that is the
culture that God had delivered to those who are (biologically or spiritually)
descendants of Abraham, Deut 7:1-4.
There are also social benefits that one derives from
getting married, according to a write-up, What
Are the Social Benefits of Marriage?, by FOR YOUR MARRIAGE. They include:
Marriage and Health
·On average, husbands and wives are
healthier, happier and enjoy longer lives than those who are not married.
·Men appear to reap the most physical health
benefits from marriage and suffer the greatest health consequences if they
divorce.
·Married mothers have lower rates of
depression than single or cohabiting mothers, probably because they are more
likely to receive practical and emotional support from their child’s father and
his family.
Marriage and Wealth
·Married couples build more wealth on
average than singles or cohabiting couples.
·Married men earn more money than do single
men with similar education and job histories.
·Married women are economically better off
than divorced, cohabiting or never-married women.
Marriage and Children
Children raised by their
own married mother and father are:
·Less likely to be poor or to experience
persistent economic insecurity.
·More likely to stay in school, have fewer behavioural
and attendance problems, and earn four-year college degrees.
·Less vulnerable to serious emotional illness,
depression and suicide attempts.
·More likely to have positive attitudes
towards marriage and greater success in forming lasting marriages.
Marriage and
Crime/Domestic Violence
·Married women are at lower risk for
domestic violence than women in cohabiting or dating relationships.
·Boys raised in single-parent homes are more
likely to engage in criminal and delinquent behaviours than those raised by two
married biological parents.
·Married women are significantly less likely
to be the victims of violent crime than single or divorced women. Married men
are less likely to perpetrate violent crimes than unmarried men.
Marriage and Society
·The institution of marriage reliably
creates the social, economic and affective conditions for effective parenting.
·Being married changes people’s lifestyles
and habits in ways that are personally and socially beneficial. Marriage is a
“seedbed” of pro-social behaviour.
·Marriage generates social capital. The
social bonds created through marriage yield benefits, not only for the family,
but for others as well, including the larger society.
Finally, the scriptures
affirms that “Therefore a man shall
leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife,
and they shall become one flesh”. Gen 2:24, AMP.