With the increasing number of
divorce in Christian marriages, the high rate of child molestation, the
unbridle evil of child trafficking, the pain of kidnapping, the open mindedness
of people to do evil – calling Nigerian youths to order may not be out of point
for the respected Pastor E. A. Adeboye.
What is expected of a man of God (in
Adeboye’s) standard, being a national and international influence, is to
correct sources of problems (in the nations of the world). Aside from being
aged, he is at the position where God can easily speak to him for every nation.
So, it happened that Pastor Adeboye
was mocked (in fact, attacked) for performing his responsibilities – of
protecting the future of Nigeria.
It was reported, recently, that he
counselled the youths on whom to marry in order to avoid the repetition of evil
that is encroaching marriages (presently).
“… those that I advised before and
ignored my advice come to me now: they will say, ‘you warned us’.
“I’m warning you now. Don’t marry a
girl who cannot cook”, Adeboye said.
The
causes of problems in marriages
Whether a Christian home or a family
belonging to anyone of another religion, what the Pastor mentioned for youths
to avoid are things that are wrecking marriages, today.
For any Christians’ homes – prayer
is the sustaining strength (against the whiles of the enemies), which if
defaulted, a home will be subjected to the manipulations of the devil.
Cooking is another aspect of a
family’s strength. A woman can either bring her husband home or push him
outside (with cooking): laziness, of course, will make a home to be dirty and
the marriage – of tolerance rather than that of intimacy.
Men have their duties: women have
their duties (that is why Adeboye advised women not to marry men that have no
jobs too). Any man who marries a lazy woman will not (really) have complete
commitments to the lady, except that the two of them are ‘birds of the same
feathers which flock together’.
And
the attack came
Immediately the counsel went out
from the man of God, opposing views came out in numbers. Several Nigerian
artists (who majorly show ‘love in the movies’ without meaningful real love
affairs) aired their views.
Nigerian youths, both males and
females, quickly supported the views from the showbiz arena (where everything
is of augmented realities) – forgetting that what they watch in the movies are
not things applicable to individual of them.
An adage in Yoruba says, “We look
upon the appearance of whoever will give one a cloth”.
Wisdom is the only thing needed to
choose from the Pastor’s and the oppositions’ views.
In showbiz, twirking is preferred
above moralness; sexuality is projected as the order of the day; promiscuity is
embellished as the ‘in-thing’; impacts of divorce is less publicised and
divorce is given prominence; waywardness is preached above social
responsibility; and Satanism is being promoted above the knowledge of God –
among other things.
Yet, Nigerian youths find comfort to
pitch their tents with the opposing views of individuals from showbiz. Which views
really has the youths’ interests at heart?
The one that wants to see
improvement, security, and stability in marriages or the one that talks to
remain relevant so that he/she can sell products to the youths – at the expense
of their lives?
That is where the wisdom lies.
In
conclusion
When God speaks, He forces no one to
comply because there is (always) the right of any man to choose what he wants.
Those who are Christians today are
not Christians because God forced them. They became Christians because they
received grace and, also, decided to accept that grace that God provided.
The Bible instilled in us that
‘wisdom is profitable to direct’. Ecclesiastes
10:10.
After all, the Adeboye will not live
with any youths who marry in ‘correlation to’ or ‘other of’ his counsel. The
only issue is that those who create problems in their marriages are creating
problems for the nation, and the entire world.
In clear words, it is always good to
be a source of peace to the society (at large) and to ameliorate suffering from
the masses: anyone that wants to do good for the society must get his or her
marriage right.
